Humans are seen as social creatures. We form communities, tribes, collectives, cooperatives, Vereine, and whatever other words we can possibly think of to mark our standing as “together”. The groups we form draw boundaries between who is “us” and who is “them”, develop cultural norms that determine who behaves acceptably or not, and shape us into who we are. Our appearance, ethics, and behavior are all determined by the groups we belong to. And we cannot deny that our feeling of belonging is deeply affected by how well integrated we feel in the groups we want to be a part of, and our social standing within those groups.

As well, groups may play with the sense of belonging in order to regulate the behavior of its members; if somebody in a group is misbehaving relative to the culture of the group then they may be shamed and made to feel insecure about their position. Their social standing may be threatened along with their very membership! And on the flip-side, if somebody is behaving well, then they are likely to be affirmed by the group, perhaps rewarded and their sense of security reinforced. Perhaps they are even allowed to shape the culture of the group as a leader, and given power.

In this workshop, we will explore what it means to form a group and develop a culture within that group. We will do this by literally creating groups with different structures, ethics, and behavior within a framework provided. We will explore what it means to belong, and what it feels like to have it taken away. We will also explore what it’s like to interact with other groups and cultures and struggles of integrating together, as well as the reward.

Once we are able to navigate the dynamics of a group, and what it means to form a common culture and understanding, we will then apply our learnings to playing in a group, introducing the concept of a play party, and explore kink within a group setting.

If you are interested in booking this workshop in a part of the world near you, then please send an email.